Have you ever found yourself asking these questions:

• "Why won't they just listen?"

• "Why are they doing this? They should know better."

• "Why can't they just obey and behave?"
  
  Did you know that more often than not children are just being, well, children? But, did you also know that the main reason why their actions and behaviors cause you stress and anxiety is because likely you weren't allowed to be a child and have childish behaviors?
  
  What would happen if in the middle of a high anxiety moment someone said "I wonder why this is making you so upset. Can you help me understand?" instead of "Oh, you're fine. It's not a big deal." or "Ugh! I can't handle you right now. Just go to your room." Your response would likely be one of feeling heard, understood, and connected. 
  
  Children are the same. They are learning to have emotions and reactions and impulse control, but we have to teach them. When we learn to see every reaction and tantrum as a cry for a need or connection beyond what we're seeing on the surface we're able to help them through it and show them our empathy, compassion and understanding. Our children will model whatever behavior and attitude that is being shown to them. We can break the cycle of shame, guilt, and fear in our parenting. All it takes is someone saying, "No More."
  
  So, what do you say? Are you ready to say "No More" and become the parent you needed and want to be?

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